I was assuming that the private profiles you are talking about are of people born within the last 150 years.
Any profiles of people born after 1872, which are private, can only be merged by their managers.
Now, if the private profiles are of people born before 1872, you can go over to the pinned thread asking for curator help, and ask a curator to look at them. Very occasionally we can’t make the older profiles public, but usually we can.
Anne Brennen: One profile is from the 18th century. (a very distant relative).
Other relatives profile merges DO NOT OBEY my instructions. So should not be in my MERGE area. The matter was in GENI's hands a few years ago, and no one resolved them. I DO NOT WANT TO SEE THEM ANYMORE.
Bjorn: relatives profiles managed by me ALONE, have no problem. But trying to merge with another which is private, etc. do not work.
GENI team did not solve the non-mergibles problem.
Solution: remove those from my MERGE CENTER.
Thanks guys for all the information.