The mystery deepens!
There is a record for Eliza Jane Sterley (Baines) which was added by Helen Low (Painter) here on geni.com
According to this record she married an Alfred Sterley, was born one year apart from him and in a Grahamstown which is a stones throw from Port Elizabeth where Alfred was born.
She also has a fairly well mapped out genealogy showing that she was definitely born Baines.
She appears as the wife of an Alfred Sterley on at least one tree from myheritage.com:
http://www.myheritage.com/matchingresult-8ce8bd8628f7eb27a4ecbd4f45...
Somebody else researching this has been in contact with me by email and claims to have in their posession a copy of some document showing that an Eliza Jane Baines married an Alfred Sterley (I am still waiting to be sent this).
As far as I'm aware, all the South African Sterleys at that time (1850s) came from a single family of 1820 settlers - it is highly unlikely that this is some other Alfred Sterley.
Finally the names Elize Jane Graham is remarkably similar to the name Eliza Jane Baines.
Putting all of this together, the evidence seems to clearly point to this being the same person and the maiden name Graham being wrong.
So it turns out my father has two different sources for this.
1) A family tree compiled by Edward James Sterley which records Alfred Sterley as having married an Eliza Jane Graham
2) He has a copy of this book: <a href="http://opac.seals.ac.za:81/record=b1013480~S3">Thomas Sterley and John Matthews : 1820 Settlers, South Africa</a> which records Alfred Sterley as having married Eliza Jane Baines
He admits it is quite likely that the tree compiled by Edward James had errors in it.
All things considered, the evidence is now clearly pointing to Eliza Jane Baines being the correct name.
Given this, I will now proceed with the merger.
WHO WAS ELIZA JANE GRAHAM
The tale of Two women and a website
Proposal: ELIZA JANE BAINES not Eliza Jane Graham married Alfred STERLEY on 13 August 1883:
She was the daughter of James John Baines and CW Green
James John Baines lived on Berkely farm Kariega and had 2 wives who issued 11
Jemima BOWLES 8 and Caroline Weymouth GREEN 3
Register of the Church of Christ called Baptist in Grahamstown CORY MS 16 850D.1 Vol 1 Minister: Rev Alexander Hay Transcribed by: Tessa King
Page No. 010 Surname: BAINES Christian Names: Eliza Jane Fathers Names: James John Mothers Names: Caroline Weymouth Mothers Maiden Name: GREEN Date of Birth: 06 Sept 1858 Where Born: Grahamstown
Her MARRIAGE to ALFRED STERLEY
ENTRY # 3102
HUSBAND'S SURNAME STERLEY
HUSBAND'S GIVEN NAME(S) Alfred
WIFE'S SURNAME BAINES
WIFE'S GIVEN NAME(S) Eliza Jane
DATE 8/13/1883
MICROFILM # 1259474
ITEM # 1
CERT/AFF Certificate
FILM DESCRIPTION Cape Province Marriages 1883
ALL 10 siblings of ELIZA JANE BAINES
correct details are on Register of the Church of Christ called Baptist in Grahamstown CORY MS 16 850D.1 Vol 1 Minister: Rev Alexander Hay Transcribed by: Tessa King
James John BAINES x 24/3/1839 Jemima BOWLES
1 Elizabeth Emma Date of Birth: 05 July 1840 Born: Port Elizabeth
2 Cecilia Jane Date of Birth: 06 May 1842 B Kariega nr Grahamstown
3 Annie Date of Birth: 21 May 1844 Born: Kariega nr Grahamstown
4 Fanny Date of Birth: : 16 June 1846 Born: Kariega nr Grahamstown
5 Mary Ann DINI Date of Birth: 22 Aug 1848 [d Bef. 1849] Born: Kariega
6 Mary Ann dob 19 Jul 1849 16 June 1846 Kariega nr Grahamstown
7 Stafford John Dini 05 May 1851 [d Infancy]
8 STAFFORD JOHN DoB 14 december 1852 Born: Kariega
xx James John BAINES xx 30/1/1856 Carolina Weymouth GREEN.
9 Eliza Jane b 06 Sept 1858 in : Grahamstown m ALFRED STERLEY
10 James Berkley b 03 Jan 1860 Grahamstown m Ida Emma Bowles
11 Jessie Millicent aka Lettie 27 Apr 1861 Born: Berkleys Albany [ ref to Farm name]
More research and collated collaboration will find More Date ALFREDS exact Christening /dob
It seems clear that Eliza Jane daughter James John of the BAINES FAMILY of BERKELY Farm Kariega was indeed
The Matriarch of the Baines Henley Sterley Matriarchy 1883~
Case closed . thks everyone