Annelise, you are hijacking your own argument. You have accused Ofir of being arrogant and bullying you. Whatever chance there was to work through what happened and pinpoint where he could have behaved differently; and should do so in the future – has been completely undermined by the arrogance and vengeful bullying behaviour that you continue to engage in on these threads.
You say “When you have an objective, reasonable curator, that works fine. I have been doing that for over a year now without any problems.”
- You are mistaken. Your rude response to the first conversation I had with you elicited a number of messages from other users describing their experiences with you as “arrogant” and ‘brusque.’
You say “You want it done behind closed doors. with the unreasonable curator that has to be appeased and drag in customer service in if necessary.”
-I have no idea where your assumptions about me wanting closed doors or being interested in appeasing people comes from. The problem here is exactly that no open discussion was had with the person BEFORE you went behind his back to have his profile unlocked and changed.
Whether or not he would have given you an adequate explanation for locking it; or whether he would have co-operated with you – all, unfortunately, becomes moot, because your own behaviour was so non-collaborative and arrogant.
Your own fighting talk about ‘level playing fields’ for ‘peer review’ of ‘competing parallel profiles’, explains a lot about why you are experiencing this as an “emotional power game”. Geni is a collaboration, not a competition. You can’t call for a peer-review before you’ve even had the discussion; and you can’t accuse people of appeasing his arrogant behaviour, while expecting them to appease yours. I think Geni told you this too.
I am leaving this discussion as it is effectively blocking the possibility of having a conversation about the real problem.