Well, if that is the case, then I have to say I think that is FAR worse than restricting free users from being able to add their fifth great grandparents.
Think of it from a systemic point of view. A user's FIRST interaction with other users, (often close or distant relatives!) is a Geni window forcing them to pay. They don't even get to SEE the amazing capabilities of Geni?
Merging trees is Geni's best feature, and competitive advantage over the competition, and now, free users will not even get to experience that without paying?
And think of it from my perspective, that being a paid lifetime Geni user, the rest of my time her on Geni, I have to tell people that they have two options, give me 100% access to their entire family so that we can merge, or not merge? That's the option? I'm not asking distant relatives to pay on my behalf. As far as I'm concerned, I paid to use the propose merge tool, they should be able to accept those proposals I PAID for.
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And part of my disappointment here comes from my view of startup culture, and the computer tech industry, which I am a part of. It's really hard to be a successful startup. I get that. It's expensive, it's stressful, and you have to risk it all in hope that you'll win a permanent share of your industry.
With that said, Geni so far, until THIS decision, had made ALL of the right decisions. (Free, socially viral, collaborative, open, good quality privacy settings, high quality product, excellent community forums, wikipedia style contribution structure, etc) But restricting free users from "joining the party" and merging with the world tree is highly bizarre to me. Those user's can't see Geni's amazing benefits, and so they don't understand WHY they would pay. It's only after seeing how amazing merging is that I personally decided it was worthwhile to become a Pro user.
I want Geni to win. Not only because I think you guys are still the best in the industry, but because I think Ancestry is absurdly expensive, because I think MyHeratige is total crap, and because I KNOW the future of this industry is a facebook style free-ness,
I mean, just imagine if Facebook charged people to post to other users' walls. That's what this is comparable to, IMO. It would be highly detrimental to Facebook's competitive edge, and remember, Facebook had 100 major competitors, and yet they won, because they found another way to fund themselves. Even a company like Classmates.com, that had a 8 year lead on Facebook, was passed up and dominated (obliterated really) by Facebook, and why ? Because Classmates.com charged money.
I strongly hope you consider changing this feature. I fear that as long as free users can not accept pending merges, you are going to both discourage people from paying at all (and becoming real serious Geni users) as well as you are going to cause people who are serious Geni users to become dis-interested when they can't get any of the free users to accept pending merges.
Do what Facebook did. Fund yourselves on ads placed on free user's pages. But don't restrict their ability to contribute or collaborate on the site.